DEAR MS. SMARTPHONE: I READ THAT LOTS OF PEOPLE ADMIT TO HAVING A SECOND, CONCEALED PHONE. BUT THEN MY BUDDY AT WORK ADMITTED TO HAVING ONE. Fred, Novato
Dear Fred: There was a survey of 1,500 people who admitted to cheating on their spouse, and eleven percent of the cheaters said that they used an extra phone for communications. But, this survey was among people who have extra-marital affairs. Sometimes there are legitimate reasons people have a second phone: they have a second phones to separate their work and home lives, they keep a spare backup, or they use it while they travel. However, your buddy admitted to having a concealed phone, so that raises other issues: why is he concealing the phone and is he keeping something secret.
DEAR MS. SMARTPHONE: MY WIFE AND I ARE GOING TO TAKE AN OVERDUE HONEYMOON. WE GOT MARRIED LAST YEAR AND FINALLY HAVE THE TIME TO DO THIS. MY WIFE DOES NOT WANT US TO BRING ALONG OUR SMARTPHONES. BUT I FEEL THAT WE WILL BE TOTALLY DISCONNECTED AND MISS OUT IF WE DO NOT. Old Groom in San Mateo.
Dear Old Groom: You and your wife need to be on the same page when it comes to the type of honeymoon/vacation you want. Are you going to drive a lot, in which case you may need the maps on your phone, or are you going to sit on the beach and relax? Seek a compromise: can you agree to check the phone for one hour a day, say after breakfast? P.S. Remember to turn off the notifications and ringer at night if you travel to a different time zone!
DEAR MS. SMARTPHONE: MY BOYFRIEND HELPED ME DOWNLOAD SOME NEW APPS. BUT NOW HE HAS MY PASSWORD FOR BOTH THE PHONE AND FOR THE APP STORE. HE SAYS I DO NOT NEED TO CHANGE THEM IF I TRUST HIM. Lily, La Canada
Dear Lily: Lots of people find themselves in this situation, and you should be grateful for the assistance he gave you with the phone. It’s great to learn about our phones by asking others for help. But, even though you fully trust your boyfriend, it’s always a good idea to frequently change passwords because of outside security risks. Go ahead and change your passwords, and if you have to explain your reasoning, tell him you are going to do this regularly to keep your phone more secure.